Submissive, dominant, sadist, masochist, exhibitionist, voyeur, hetero, bi or homo? Who cares about stereotypes? I don't. But, if you want to trigger your own prejudices about me, I'll tell you I'm not homo. Maybe more masochist than sadist, dom than sub, but when I bring out the whip or belt, I hit hard. I'ld rather use a kinder tool, than whip softer. To me, BDSM is not play, it is part of sex.
You can always obtain more money, stuff, and prestige. But time disappears and never returns.